What's Wrong With The Sexual Offender Registry!

 When the Sexual offender registry came out I was like most Americans happy that there was such a thing to protect my child from sexual predators. I believed everyone that was labeled a sexual offender was a threat and danger to my society. This came out around 1996-97 when I had been a mother for a short time. 

When I started meeting some sexual offenders in my community. I started realising the Sexual Offender Registry wasn't what the media and government wants the public to believe. It was created originally because of a young girl who was brutally raped and murdered Megan. Her mother rightfully fought to have children protected across the nation. There was nothing wrong with this, and I would have done the same thing. Megan's Law was therefore created. In her honor and memory. As well as the Adam Walsh Act.

Sexual predators do need to be monitored we should be able to feel safe in our communities and protect our children. The problem is in Michigan on our list News 8 did an investigation of how many offenders on the list were actually predators. The result was 1out 5 were actually a danger to our society. Thirty-one possible predators in 49503 were actually predators. The Sexual offender registry in our state gives a false sense of security to the parents in our community.

The thing is people are grouped together no matter what the offense might be. You could be on the sexual offender list for having sex in a park or beach with your wife or husband. We could all possibly be guilty over this at some point time in our lives.  So are we all considered sexual offenders and predators. 

There are countless college students that were drunk and exposed themselves, or peed in public that were caught and put on this list as well. How many people have been in the woods camping and peed while they were drunk?

There are many guys out there that can not afford a good attorney when a woman yells rape, and she is just being spiteful and vindictive because he doesn't want to be with her anymore. Yes you can have an appointed attorney, but most of them just take sides of the woman and believe your guilty if a woman says rape! Now if you don't come from a wealthy family, and have mullah bucks for a good lawyer, most of these men will plead guilty due to the fact they are scared if they go to trial and don't have a good lawyer, they will be sitting in prison.  I have heard this from a lawyer myself explaining that these men don't understand once that  guilty plea is in, they are labeled, and in the system for life. 

There are also what they call the Romeo & Juliet gang on there that just simply fell in love. An older teen and a younger teen, because a parent didn't like the guy they decided to charge the boy/girl with statutory rape. Later these couples eventually marry. The only problem is they are on a sexual offender list for 25 years for their sexual crimes listed above, and can't go to college without their face being plastered on every website across the nation.They can not get financial aid or student loans because it is a federal offense.

 They can't go to any public school with their children.  They can't keep a job because if they lie, they will be found out that they are on the list. If they tell the truth they won't be hired. They are banned from most places to live.  They are considered sexual predators because they fell in love with the wrong girl/boy. Even a homeless shelter can not take them in because they are labeled a sexual predator. These people try to commit suicide because the public has labeled them as an offender.  The law is the law. Justice should be served. 

That is not the argument, but the Sexual offender list should be revamped to truly let you know who the true predators are. It is a false sense of security at least in my community because I look at that list and there is not enough information really to tell me if they are a danger.  I have at leas 5 in my neighborhood or more. I don't ever see them around. I don't know there stories.  Yet I don't trust the list knowing that some of them might have just been in love, or had bad judgement while they were younger and had a few to many drinks.

Does the list make me feel safer knowing all this. It really doesn't especially when a state official even told me that the real danger is among teenage boys.  They also agreed that the list was not serving its purpose as well, these dating relationships fall in the cracks, and most of these dating relationships are one time offenders, and not a danger to our society.

It is a scary thing in our society, it is something most people want to do is protect their children and families.  Yet if you don't have an accurate Sex offender Registry, how do you know who is a danger and not in our society.

It is amazing to when people don't understand the laws as well in dating, when their emotions get high, they are falling in love, and the parents decide to press charges. Its a high price to pay for falling in love these days, or even dating at all. I am scared for all teenagers out there, because they get mixed up with the wrong girl/boy that decides to play mind games at an early age, they can destroy that persons life for the rest of their lives. 

I think teenagers need to be educated about this law, and the consequences  of having sex, because the way the laws are going at the moment the government doesn't care whether you were in love, or it was consensual, or if you were only one year a part. The law has no mercy! 

I'm afraid for our children because even a 21 year old man is fighting to stay off of it, because he used bad judgement. He went to in school classroom two different times to record two different songs. One was an appropriate song with all the children there.  Another time was when no children or anyone was there. He had his clothes on, was just singing explicit lyrics. Did not touch any child, or have any sexual misconduct.  He blended the two videos together and posted it on you tube.

Of course the parents were outraged. Who would not be, they investigated the situation.  He just used bad judgement and thought it would be funny.  This case is still going on, but most likely he will have to stay away from children, and be on the list. 

People use bad judgement, I think we all have. It's just a high price to pay, to never be able to have a job, home, family, or social life once you get labeled a sexual offender.  I have even read about a man in Florida that was an actual predator. Wheel chair bound a the end of his life, people went around plastering his face every where on doors in his neighborhood for something he had done years before.  He ended up killing himself. 

I really don't understand what society is trying to prove with this. It doesn't protect our children or us. It does provide some predators, but like I said I think it should be revamped, I don't think people should be grouped together. I think the real danger should be displayed but not the countless other crimes that are not a danger to our society. Maybe it does make people feel better with the dating relationships on there, and people that just did stupid stuff.  It just seems that at some point if the laws keep getting stricter and tighter, its going to affect your own family, because some one's going to slap your son or daughter with the crime of being a sexual offender for being in the wrong place at the wrong time.  Once that name is on the list, its permanent. There is no lawyer that can get it off of the list.

For those who think that I am out of place, I have been child molested and raped, so I don't need a lecture about standing up for this. I understand what a woman goes through, and a child goes through. I also understand the sick people out there that do harm others emotionally and physically. I understand how traumatizing it is, and even those victims try to commit suicide or kill themselves. I understand how it destroys their lives.  These are the predators your after, and they are all over the Internet, and society. Only they know how to get passed the laws, and they also understand how to pull a child in. 

Fortunately I know to many teenagers are being exploited on the Internet.  I have talked to these teenagers, and that is the thing, where are their parents when they sit on the computer for ours having voice sex, and chat sex with older men, thinking its okay to be talking to these men.  These children are convinced its appropriate and okay for an older man or woman to exploit their young minds. Fortunately as one told me, I can just go in the bathroom, lock the door, and look at what ever I want on my cellphone. You parents can't protect us anymore. They are right, because we allow the Internet access, and we allow them to have cell phones.

Your child is not protected in your home, because you allow them to that access. They know how to get around road blocks on computers, and if you don't keep up with computer technology, and their little secret codes of writing, you don't know what they are doing. They are curious, and looking for answers, but end up in the wrong hands. If your child is on Second Life, this is a warning! Get them off now! I can not say this seriously enough! There is no way for them to be protected, and this is where I am talking to teenagers.

Your childrenare in a danger zone on this game because they are to young, and its rough enough for adults not being attacked by predators. Which are many all over the world. My Yearbook is another place where Teenagers congregate, being exploited.  Pay attention to what your children are doing. 

On my space alone I read somewhere there was 90,000 sexual offenders.  They are every where. This sexual offender list is not protecting your children, because on the Internet in your home, they have access to how many predators, and when your not looking that is where the true enemy gets in.