Suicide is a choice!

 

Most of the time people don't understand why people choose suicide over living. In my twenties both my cousin and good friend's Dad both chose that path to end their lives.

People don't understand the funk a person gets in when they are depressed. Most of the time people are bogged down with stress and anxiety. Life changes occur like someone may have lost a job, divorced or separated from a girlfriend, boyfriend, or spouse. They may have lost someone by death, or many other traumatic events can happen in their lives like being raped, abused by their partners, or been involved with drug activity. There are many things that can go wrong in a person's life, and some times many things at once.

Not everyone has the life skills or the coping skills to become a problem solver. Not everyone may understand how to get out of emotional turmoil.

If someone is suicidal they won't come to you, and most likely won't tell anyone they are in trouble. If they do tell you, most people don't take them seriously.

People may choose suicide because they simply have been through to many traumatic events. I met one young girl that wanted to end her life because she was being sexually abused by her parent. It amazed me because the young lady was a very beautiful girl, and someone chose to hurt her very deeply.

It's amazing the many teens on My Yearbook, and other social network sites that find themselves in similar situations. They are in homes where they are being abused emotionally, physically, sexually, and neglected in positive forms of touch, communication, and love.

It's amazing to know how much violence, hostility, and anger that goes on inside family walls. Parents don't understand what they are doing to their children when they constantly criticize, judge, and yell at there children.

I've heard my own neighbor plenty of times yelling and screaming all day long at the top of their lungs, and find it annoying myself as I don't have a choice always to listen to what my neighbors are saying or doing.

Children are surrounded by parental figures that drink alcohol to release their own stress, and anxiety, and the children suffer for it when the adults end up throwing things, or beating their children to get rid of their anger and hostility.

I often wonder how many parents really think before they act out towards their children. Yet I understand they are hurting people themselves. They choose to hurt others because that is the way they have been taught in their own life and relationships with other people.

It's amazing how many children are raped every day by a parent, or friend. It's amazing to know these kids are screaming out for help on social network sites to people all over the globe because no one is listening to them.

No one is hearing their voices in the silence. They cut themselves and hide it, starve themselves becoming anorexic, they burn themselves, they even choose suicide because they don't feel loved, or nurtured in their own homes.

They are full of pain and suffering and than adults tell them to stop cutting and don't understand why they are doing it. They have peers and friends there own age telling them to go ahead and do it, encouraging them to hurt themselves and end their lives. If parents want their children to stop hurting themselves they need to stop hurting themselves and their children.

Parents really need to take a good look at themselves and figure out why their children want to hurt themselves. Legally they can't leave that environment until they reach the Legal age. They don't have a choice, and the only way they leave is if someone reports them to the state. It's pitiful because even then they are some times placed in foster care homes that they are abused as much as their normal homes.

We as a society really need to take a stand and teach our children to love themselves. Fortunately if the parents won't admit they have a problem the children will suffer. Children only know what there parents teach them, and most of these children think it is normal to be abused everyday.

They don't have the coping skills to deal with all the trauma that follows being beat, or abused physically, sexually, or emotionally by an adult. They hold it in, and they bury it deep within themselves till it piles up and explodes.

Suicide sounds like a good choice for them in their minds because they can only see it as an escape mechanism to get out of the pain and suffering they live everyday.

Sending them to a psychologist helps and medication, but understanding that the whole family needs to be treated, and without the whole family admitting they have a problem, or doing something wrong doesn't change matters.

Fortunately people that are suicidal whether they are adults or children need to heal from the past and the post traumatic aftermath of being hurt and abused by others.

Depression is a dark place and most people do not understand it. They can judge them and criticize them because they can not change fast enough for the people in their lives. It is not something people can just snap out of, and demanding they do makes things even worse.

People in this state of mind need people to support them and encourage them in positive ways. Acknowledge their feelings and validate them. It's ok to feel the way they do, and telling them that they are wrong to feel the way they do, or tell them how they should feel just makes matters worse. It's better to help them understand it's ok to feel the way they feel in the moment, and it is only a temporary feeling and place in their lives. Life will get better and change in time.

Teaching them to express themselves through a journal, art, music, or getting involved in sports gives them an outlet to get rid of the negativity energy and helps them express what they are feeling.

One girl I talked to she felt more comfortable talking because we sat and played checkers. It gave her something at the same time as well talk about what she was going through in her life.

People want to be heard, and listened to without us making an opinion about them, or interrupting them. They want to feel they have a right to be themselves and not be told who they should be. When we give someone the freedom to be, instead of molding them into who we think they should be in the moment they feel more free to be themselves and open up.

Their minds may not be in the right place or path, but by speaking it, or expressing it their minds become clearer.

I find it amazing that so many teens are on the Internet expressing themselves and most of these sites don't have help centers or help lines, or social workers, or psychologists. They find their peers,and given a bad scene of being bullied, torn down further by abusive verbal remarks, and no positive feedback. They are not being guided to a safe place, or safe outlet to express themselves or find positive solutions.

I talked one boy out of suicide once and for me I never know what happens to these people. Being on the internet I am limited, and can only do my best by guiding them to get help in real, sit and talk to them and try to change their way of thinking in the moment.

It really needs to be pointed out that love is what these children are seeking. If they don't get love in their homes that is unconditional and without injury they go out looking for it in the wrong places.

Most of the time I encourage them to find a young life, or youth group that they can make positive friends and have role models to teach them the right path in building their self esteem up.

Really what other place is there for children to feel good about themselves if we don't have places like youth group and young life where leaders want to make a difference. Big Brother and Sisters is also another organization that helps kids feel good about themselves.

If you know a child in your neighborhood that is having a bad life please get involved in their life and do activities with them, make them feel important, build things with them, share your talents with them, encourage them use their own talents.

Give them a chance by stepping in and being a positive role model. Save their life by being a friend and loving them unconditionally.