A perfect marriage!

 My theory is that in marriage there is no perfect person. Our partner will always with hold the truth, keep his own secrets inside of his/her heart. Their is so many obstacles we must overcome personally and together.  Drugs, Alcoholism, Diseases, Gambling, and other addictions, and life circumstances.  Our past baggage is so evident in our relationships and always needs to be faced, and dealt with before marriage, but if you are already in a marriage it still needs to be confronted.

A perfect marriage is always loving each other unconditionally. We must always forgive one another for offenses towards each other. Forgiving is probably the hardest thing to do, and not hardening our heart towards our partner.  If we expect nothing bad to ever happen, we set are selves up to fail. There will always be something we experience personally or together.

At times we withdrawal from each other, and step away in our own silences, other times we will be very open and honest with one another.  It's just a struggle constantly that we face that we are all fallible human beings. We always say we won't do something. We always think we would never do what some one else did. We have an idea that we can say it will never happen to us.

Although we try to live the best lives we can in the moment, we can never expect our marriages to be perfect. Leaving our partner will not resolve matters and finding another one will not resolve them. We will always be learning the lesson over and over again till we get it right.  It is true that some times a new partner is healthier and better for us, but if we are already married if it's not abusive or life threatening, than seek professional help.

The one thing that most people are afraid of is rejection and abandonment. Perhaps the reason why is society has taught them that this is the solution to handling all life's problems by walking away and seeking a divorce. People just give up on one another, and stop believing in one another.  We stop having confidence in the other person that they can pull out of what they are experiencing, and some times we have to understand we can not change people, or fix them. We have to go through what we need to in the moment until we learn what we need to be ourselves and each other.

When your partner is down than you should be guarding it, praying over it, putting a hedge of protection around it.  We should be looking at ourselves and seeing what we are doing wrong personally in the relationship and try to change it for the better.  We should never leave our partner in the dark, or in the emotional fires of life.  We must stand there and be their support through it all.  Our realtionships  become stronger as we do when we conquer the storms in our life. Healing comes and calms the storms in the end.

When we have faith in each other and God we learn that when we work together as a team we can conquer many obstacles in life. We were never meant to be alone, and often we do feel alone, because to many people walk away and give up on us, or just are not there yet to be mature enough to handle healthy relationships.

Sometimes we outgrow other people in our maturity, and have to wait for them to catch up. We must find patience as we wait for them, and on God.  We should always seek to be positive and encourage others to do their best in the moment.

Every day is a new day, and a new beginning. That is the amazing thing the past is gone, but today is always a new day to treasure and make better things happen in our lives. We can do something good in each other's lives every day in some way.

The perfect marriage would be to realise we will always be imperfect and there will always be times that you have broken hearts, but other times you can be each other's hope and strength.  The storms are usually just stretching your character for both of you to become one instead of two separate beings.   God says you become one flesh when you are married. Perhaps when he strips us of all those negative things and we become two wholes we become the perfect whole in his image which is unconditional love.